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You Don’t Have to Know It All: The Truth About Being a Spiritual Leader

  • Writer: Tam
    Tam
  • Dec 26, 2025
  • 2 min read

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Let’s talk about it. This pressure....this unspoken weight that so many spiritual leaders, healers, and guides carry.


The expectation that because you hold space for others, because you see beyond the veil, because you’ve been chosen, you must somehow have it all together. Every answer. Every lesson mastered. Every test passed with flying colors.


That’s a lie. A bold-faced, soul-crushing lie.


And I need you to release it today.


You Are a Keeper of Knowledge, Not the Owner of It


One of the most beautiful (and humbling) things about walking an ancestral path is that we are always in a state of becoming. We don’t arrive. We don’t hit some magical threshold where we know it all, never make mistakes, and never need to unlearn.


Nah, sis. We are keepers of knowledge, but we are also students. And sometimes, we get the lesson right in the same place we once got it all the way wrong. Sometimes, spirit will sit us down in the very classroom we thought we were teaching in.


Ain’t that something?


So why do we feel like we have to be perfect? Why do we shame ourselves for still learning while leading?


The Work Will Test You Where You Teach


You will be challenged in the very thing you help others heal in. That’s not a coincidence, that’s the work.


If you guide others through heartbreak, betrayal, or loss, guess what?


Your heart will be stretched in ways that demand deeper understanding.


If you help people release fear and trust themselves, guess what? You’ll be met with moments where your own faith is tested.


And if you’re too caught up in proving that you “know it all,” you’ll miss the growth that comes with being broken open. You’ll resist the medicine that you, too, need to drink.


Elders Are Still Learning, Too


Even our elders...those who have walked before us, who hold wisdom like a well...are still students. Some of them are still unlearning colonized spirituality, patriarchal oppression, and outdated traditions that no longer serve. Some are still realizing the power of softening, of letting go, of doing things differently.


So why are you, in your journey, trying to skip steps?


Why are you expecting to be beyond the very nature of what it means to be human?


Baby, even the most seasoned healer still gets cut and needs tending to.


Even you.


Release the Burden of Perfection


I want you to take a deep breath right now. Let go of the pressure. Let go of the shame. You do not need to be a flawless example of divinity. You just need to be present, willing, and open.


You don’t have to know it all. You just have to keep showing up.


And when you get it wrong? When you fall short? When spirit humbles you in ways you didn’t expect?


Thank them for the lesson. Thank them for the opportunity to grow.

And keep going.


You are an elder in the making, but even the most revered elders still sit at the feet of wisdom.



 
 
 

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